It is difficult to select a psychologist. You are
not alone in knowing little about psychology and related professions
until now that you are looking into it. I hope that it will give you
some confidence to know that I am a NH-licensed psychologist, a graduate
of an APA-approved clinical psychology doctoral program, and am listed
in the National Register of Health Service Psychologists. over more than thirty years of practice,
I have worked in public and private, outpatient
and inpatient settings, and now maintain a small private practice in
My masters and doctoral degree are from the University
of Connecticut, my undergraduate work was at Brandeis University, and
my internship was at Worcester State Hospital and what was then the
Model Cities Mental Health Center.
While I have a general psychology practice, my specialty is in
marriage counseling and relationship counseling in NH, where I work with couples, and
with individuals, who are having problems establishing and maintaining
mutually fulfilling love relationships. Co-author of "If This Is Love, Why Do I Feel
So Insecure?," 26th printing (Fawcett/Ballantine Press) and working
from an attachment theory perspective, I am especially interested in
problems of insecurity and jealousy in relationships as well as in the
depression that accompanies a relationship's end.
More than 60% of my work is marriage counseling, premarital
counseling, and relationship crisis intervention. I realize that couples
can spiral into difficult situations which neither really wants. Knowing that we all want similar basic "supplies"
in a relationship -- to feel wanted, cared for and understood, to look
forward to coming home and to time together, to enjoy the sharing of
lives -- we have to address why these dreams break down. I operate from
the premise that it's not because there is any "good person"
or "bad person." Rather, it is our fears and resentments which
build up over the years which interfere. For example, couples can find
themselves in "stand offs" where one won't provide love if
the other won't provide respect ... Or various other patterns where
each person's defenses interact with the other's, continuing a negative
cycle which causes the unhappiness of both. Therefore, the goal of relationship
counseling is that of starting a positive cycle, with greater awareness
and sensitivity to one another's needs and expectations.
In addition to relationship work, I provide individual counseling
and psychotherapy for adults across a wide range of concerns. Among my
clients are folks facing unexpected life changes as well as new life
stage challenges and goals. They may be facing complicated family and
work place situations, have extended family concerns (for example, with
in-laws, siblings, aging parents), parenting stresses, or more inward
issues managing emotions (for example, depression, anxiety, bipolar
disorder, etc.) My clients are at many life stages, including teens and
young adults looking ahead to so many decisions, young families living
day-to-day with all the pressures of children and careers, midlife and
"empty nest" parents facing the next life stage as a couple or alone,
folks seeking more fulfillment in their retirement and reflecting on
their lives. Counseling and psychotherapy are about problems solving,
but also about self-exploration and personal growth. What constitutes
contentedness, happiness, fulfillment and sense of meaning and purpose
in life ... all are very individual. I am the first to say that I don't
have the answers, but I feel it is a privilege to help ask the questions
in different ways, encourage different perspectives from what I have
seen over the years, and share the pleasure in what you find.
Carl G. Hindy, Ph.D., Licensed Psychologist, Exeter NH.
Marriage Counseling and Premarital Counseling:
- Communication problems between women and men
- Understanding his and her different needs
- Affection, intimacy and sexuality concerns
Understanding and managing the repeating cycles of conflict
Improving decision making as a couple
Rebuilding understanding, empathy, and caring behaviors
- Managing impulses, setting boundaries, and enhancing trust
- Problems of attachment, separation, and loss
- Sorting out thoughts and feelings, "Head" versus "Heart" in
Individual Counseling & Family Counseling:
- Adjusting to changes in your life
- Anxiety, depression, bipolar and other mood disorders
- Balancing individuality, family and career
- Setting goals for personal growth
- Families of divorce, blended families
- Helping adolescents in crisis
- Parenting your child or teen
- Cooperative parenting after divorce
- Woman's issues
- Transcending trauma and abuse
- Understanding and improving relationships
- Self-control of behavioral addictions to Internet, pornography, social media, etc.
~ Carl G. Hindy, Ph.D.
Exeter, New Hampshire (603) 880-8773
Copyright 1995-2022 Carl G. Hindy, Ph.D.