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Counseling Services in NH & Dr. Hindy's Private Practice:
Dear Client,
It is difficult to select a psychologist. You are not alone in knowing little about psychology and related professions until now that you are looking into it. I hope that it will give you some confidence to know that I am a NH-licensed psychologist, a graduate of an APA-approved clinical psychology doctoral program, and am listed in the National Register of Health Service Psychologists. Over the past 24 years of practice, I have worked in public and private, outpatient and inpatient settings, and now maintain a busy private practice in Nashua, NH (not far from the Massachusetts border and serving the suburbs north of Boston in addition to the greater Nashua area). Participating in many HMOs and PPOs, I am familiar with the needs and procedures of managed care and short-term treatment modalities. With this specialization in short-term treatment, over 150 new clients can be seen each year. I maintain psychologist privileges at Southern NH Medical Center and St. Joseph Hospital and Trauma Center, and maintain working relationships with many medical colleagues.
My masters and doctoral degree are from the University of Connecticut, my undergraduate work was at Brandeis University, and my internship was at Worcester State Hospital and what was then the Model Cities Mental Health Center. While I have a general psychology practice, my specialty is in marriage counseling and relationship counseling in NH, where I work with couples, and with individuals, who are having problems establishing and maintaining mutually fulfilling love relationships. Co-author of "If This Is Love, Why Do I Feel So Insecure?," 25th printing (Fawcett/Ballantine Press) and working from an attachment theory perspective, I am especially interested in problems of insecurity and jealousy in relationships as well as in the depression that accompanies a relationship's end.
More than 60% of my work is marriage counseling, premarital counseling, and relationship crisis intervention. I realize that couples can spiral into difficult situations which neither really wants. Knowing that we all want similar basic "supplies" in a relationship -- to feel wanted, cared for and understood, to look forward to coming home and to time together, to enjoy the sharing of lives -- we have to address why these dreams break down. I operate from the premise that it's not because there is any "good person" or "bad person." Rather, it is our fears and resentments which build up over the years which interfere. For example, couples can find themselves in "stand offs" where one won't provide love if the other won't provide respect ... Or various other patterns where each person's defenses interact with the other's, continuing a negative cycle which causes the unhappiness of both. Therefore, the goal of relationship counseling is that of starting a positive cycle, with greater awareness and sensitivity to one another's needs and expectations.
In addition to relationship work, I provide individual counseling and psychotherapy for adults across a wide range of concerns. Among my clients are folks facing unexpected life changes as well as new life stage challenges and goals. They may be facing complicated family and work place situations, have extended family concerns (for example, with in-laws, siblings, aging parents), parenting stresses, or more inward issues managing emotions (for example, depression, anxiety, bipolar disorder, etc.) My clients are at many life stages, including teens and young adults looking ahead to so many decisions, young families living day-to-day with all the pressures of children and careers, midlife and "empty nest" parents facing the next life stage as a couple or alone, folks seeking more fulfillment in their retirement and reflecting on their lives. Counseling and psychotherapy are about problems solving, but also about self-exploration and personal growth. What constitutes contentedness, happiness, fulfillment and sense of meaning and purpose in life ... all are very individual. I am the first to say that I don't have the answers, but I feel it is a privilege to help ask the questions in different ways, encourage different perspectives from what I have seen over the years, and share the pleasure in what you find.
I participate in many health care plans, and ask that you phone to discuss your health plan and payment options. As I have worked in Southern New Hampshire for so many years, I might also be able to direct you toward other professionals or services if they might better fit your needs. Please feel free to call me at 603-880-8773Sincerely,
Carl G. Hindy, Ph.D., Licensed Psychologist, Nashua NH.
Marriage Counseling and Premarital Counseling:
- Communication problems between women and men
- Understanding his and her different needs
- Affection, intimacy and sexuality concerns
- Understanding and managing the repeating cycles of conflict
- Improving decision making as a couple
- Rebuilding understanding, empathy, and caring behaviors
- Managing impulses, setting boundaries, and enhancing trust
- Problems of attachment, separation, and loss
- Sorting out thoughts and feelings, "Head" versus "Heart" in relationships.
Individual Counseling & Family Counseling:
- Adjusting to changes in your life
- Anxiety, depression, bipolar and other mood disorders
- Balancing individuality, family and career
- Setting goals for personal growth
- Families of divorce, blended families
- Helping adolescents in crisis
- Parenting your child or teen
- Cooperative parenting after divorce
- Woman's issues
- Transcending trauma and abuse
- Understanding and improving relationships
~ Carl G. Hindy, Ph.D. ~
120 Main Street, Suite 103
Nashua, NH 03060 (603) 880-8773
